Doctors Schmoctors!!

I have all these blogs that have been bouncing around in my head.  Things I want to get on paper.  And yet when I sit down to write them my brain goes blank.  Is that weird?  Well I can tell you it is most annoying .  Grr.

I am working on a good TMI post for tomorrow 🙂  Should have you all giggling pretty well.  So look forward to that and bear with me while I do a little griping.

Today I am sort of having this little pity party for myself.  I am feeling all emotional and wondering if things are going to work out with this pregnancy.  I am scared, but trying to remain hopeful.

Part of what is frustrating me so bad is that I feel like the doctor, Dr M, I have here in Texarkana is pretty much a moron.  I just don’t get good vibes from him.  I had to start seeing him because my infertility specialist, Dr G, who is based in Dallas, works with Dr M here in Texarkana.

Usually, or at least in my past, I have had an ultrasound tech do all of the ultrasounds on me.  Someone who is very familiar with Ultrasound machines and who is trained exclusively in reading and deciphering them.  Dr M does his own ultrasounds.  In my head I am guessing this is an attempt to save money.  Makes sense.  Well it would make better sense if I felt that Dr M actually had extensive training in administering the ultrasound.

The problem is that I don’t think he has a clue.  I will be laying there and he is all up in my bidness with that HUGE probe scanning my innards, and he always has this look on his face like… “uhhh… ummm… uhhhh, whats that? Uhhhh” It is *not* very reassuring.

The first time he actually was able to find the gestational sac. (last Tuesday the 15th) it only happened after about 15 minutes of him searching and saying there was no sac.  It was when I tried to move to reposition myself because he was STABING ME IN KIDNEY being too aggressive that he said, “Oh wait! I think I see something” and then had the nurse prop my hiney on a few towels for a better look.  Apparently my position helped.


He was about to let me leave thinking that I had no gestational sac and that I didn’t have a viable pregnancy, because he couldn’t FIND the sac!?  Looks pretty darn clear to me on the screen!

Isn’t there a procedure in place for ultrasound techs to scan the entire uterus?  It isn’t that big people!  It’s like the size of your fist!  So, SERIOUSLY!  How does he miss it?

So then this last week he is scanning around up in there trying to find something, with that typical dumbfounded look on his face and I have to remind him “Don’t you want me sit on those towels so you can get a better look?”

Dr M: “Oh! Yeah let’s try that.” Like he came up with the idea all by himself.

Then as you know he wasn’t able to find a heartbeat and he said he “thinks” I am measuring at 5 weeks and 5 days.  This just leaves me thinking… Does this guy really have any effin clue??

He doesn’t deliver babies anymore.  And I am starting to understand why.  Hubby says he was probably drunk all through medical school and cheated his way through it.  I am starting to think he might be right.

So with all of this frustration I have, I called Dr G, the specialist in Dallas.  This guy I trust.  He knows his shit and he doesn’t beat around the bush.  (Pun not intended… or was it? *evil grin*)

Anyhoo, Dr G says that he hasn’t known Dr M for very long and that he was approached my Dr M to do a remote partnership so that the patients in Texarkana would have access to a Fertility Specialist.  Otherwise, they do not.

After I tell him about all of the red flags I am seeing, he says he wants to see me in person and that he will be willing to work with any other doctor I choose in Texarkana, so that I don’t have to see Dr M anymore.  Yay!!

I have an appointment to see Dr G on Friday at 3PM.  He makes the 3 plus hour drive to Texarkana once a month to see the patients he has here.  I am very anxious to see him.  I am sure he will be doing another ultrasound to let me know what his opinion is.  Since this guy does this EVERY DAY and this is his life, I am feeling much more confident that he can tell me what the actual diagnosis is.

Dr M never gives me any details or information on anything.  We always have to dig it out of him and still don’t feel we get nearly enough.  Things are NOT that way with Dr G.

I am totally stoked!  Friday cannot come soon enough!  FINALLY we should have some answers.  I NEED TO KNOW!!!

Thanks for listening to my rant. 🙂


28 Responses to “Doctors Schmoctors!!”

  1. September 23, 2009 at 1:31 pm

    I really hope that everything works out and that he actually knows what he’s doing.

  2. 3 Val
    September 23, 2009 at 1:52 pm

    Oh wow! I hope you have a good ultrasound on Friday. I just watched the new show Accidentally on Purpose last night. About a cougar who gets pregnant by her young boyfriend. They’re at the dr’s office getting an ultrasound, like the day after she got pregnant (although I’m sure it’s not…). The boyfriend is impressed by all the machinery and asks the doctor, “so this is like robot porn then?” and the doctor agrees… Not sure exactly what they were looking at, but my ultrasounds sure weren’t anything that would sound like that!
    Good luck on Friday! I’m glad you got a doctor you’re happy with!

  3. September 23, 2009 at 2:06 pm

    Run as fast as you can from that bonehead!!! The doctor who recommended him should be glad for your feedback…you may well have saved his practice from disaster!! Hope all goes well on Friday. Looking forward to the TMI post, because you can NEVER have too much TMI.

    • 6 Cass
      September 23, 2009 at 2:40 pm

      He actually sounded really thankful AND he sounded like I wasn’t the first to tell him that before. So I suspect I am not the first to complain. He will probably be changing that arrangement soon I would guess.

  4. September 23, 2009 at 2:28 pm

    I agree wit Carma – get out now and tell the doctor who recommended him why you want to out.

    Time for this bonehead to hang up the shingle, so to speak.

  5. September 23, 2009 at 2:50 pm

    Best of luck.

    Anytime I’ve had the probing wand from hell up my whoha I was a little further along, so no tilting or standing on my head to find the sac.

    • 10 Cass
      September 23, 2009 at 7:23 pm

      Well I hope that Friday we get good news. I should be more like 8 weeks along now. That is what the worry is. IF i got pregnant when we did the IUI. *shrug*

  6. September 23, 2009 at 4:06 pm

    Where do these people come from? Wow. Good luck!

  7. September 23, 2009 at 4:09 pm

    SO I have many times that you should never pray for patience.


    Because then God will give you trials in which you will need to *practice* patience.

    So maybe this is all for you…

    Not really sure where that came forom but I felt compelled to share it.

    In other words… YEAH!! I hope things so great!! I am sure they will. YEAH BABY!!!


  8. September 23, 2009 at 5:54 pm

    Having a doctor who instills confidence – not makes you cringe – is definitely the way to go! I don’t know how I could’ve made it through these past weeks without a competent doctor … you deserve care that makes you feel, well, cared for! So glad you are seeing a good doc – hoping you’ll get the answers you need!

    • 16 Cass
      September 23, 2009 at 7:26 pm

      Yes, it it has been interesting. I have tried to have faith in this guy but I just can’t do it anymore.

      Thanks Dana

  9. September 23, 2009 at 7:57 pm

    It is extremely disheartening when doctors have a poor bedside manner, especially in this field. It really frightens me that he is able to practice…

  10. September 23, 2009 at 9:50 pm

    Holy cow! Thank goodness you are getting away from this doctor! How awful!

    So glad to hear you are getting some answers soon:)

  11. 21 Sethe
    September 23, 2009 at 9:56 pm

    He was about to let me leave thinking that I had no gestational sac and that I didn’t have a viable pregnancy, because he couldn’t FIND the sac!? Looks pretty darn clear to me on the screen!<— This made me laugh to death. OMG!!! Why even do ultrasound when that's not even his specialty? It's really sad to know that some doctors are just not that concerned about their patient's well being, all they care is that they get paid. Wishing you all the luck come this friday friend.. Hope you get nothing but positive result. HUGS!

  12. September 23, 2009 at 11:54 pm

    OMG I would NOT have been able to deal with that, I would have grabbed that probe and said Yeah umm I’ll do it since you obviously do NOT know what you are doing! That would have drove me bonkers!!!
    Can’t wait to hear the report!

  13. September 24, 2009 at 2:57 am

    I’m so sorry you’re going through all this, hun. Bad enough you have all that other stuff to worry about without sub-par medical care thrown into the mix. Bottom line: it’s your body and your baby and if you’re not comfortable with the care you are receiving, WHOEVER he is associated with, you should have no qualms about expressing your desire for another doctor. Talk it over with Dr G and I’m sure he’ll work with you.

    I wish you could have a doctor as wonderful as mine. They are so very rare and worth their weight in speculums…Gold. I mean gold. There is nothing more important than feeling you can trust your doctor. Mine better get well soon because I really don’t want to go to anybody else next time.

    All the best for Friday and I’m so glad you’re going to have your *real* doctor and not his poorly-screened understudy. Hugs!

  14. September 24, 2009 at 11:21 am

    god, what an idiot. i’m glad you’re getting rid of that loser and that you get to see your specialist tomorrow. GOOD LUCK!

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