Friday’s “Doooo whaaat?” Dear So and So…

Dear So and So...


Dear Wrong Side of the Bed,

Thank you for having me wake up with you today.  However, I really want to be in a better mood.  So please, try to avoid me tomorrow.

Crabby and Irritable,



Dear Sinus Infection,

It was so dear of you to think of me as a host to take over and torture.  However, it has been several weeks of feeling like complete SHEEEEEEET.  So if you could leave now and let the anti-biotics do their things I would SOOO appreciate it.  Kay? Thanks!

Your host,



Dear Monkey,

I know you don’t feel good because you have the nasty sinus infection AND you just had your immunizations yesterday AND the meany doctor made me take away your “paci” AND you are teething.  For this I understand why you feel justified in just whining and being all around crabby all day and even in the wee hours of the night (12:30am; 1:15am; 2:40am; 3:30am!?!?!) when you scream bloody murder for me to come and get you.  But, if I could interject… I just don’t think that we need to keep this up much longer.  Ok?  Mommy loves you but she needs some sleep and a tiny bit of time without you clinging to the side of me like a growth.

Love you baby!



Dear Monkey’s Pediatrician,

I really think you are awesome.  And I know you are *ahem* older and have been doing this pediatrician gig since 1812, however I do think maybe times are changing a bit.  So when we had this conversation yesterday:

Pediatrician:  Is he still throwing a lot of temper tantrums?

MamaCass:    Yes, pretty bad.  He even has begun hitting me in frustration sometimes.

Pediatrician:  Well when he does that you need to smack his hand and give him a stern NO.

MamaCass:    Well how can I teach him not to hit if I hit him? Isn’t that a mixed message?

Pediatrician:  *soft giggle* Well that is just how it’s done.

MamaCass:    *shrug*

So when I went on my merry way home after our appointment, I thought I would give it a try when he decided to smack me.  However, I got the same response when I tried swatting his butt last time (per your suggestion) for throwing a tantrum.  He laughed at me and ran off.  So my question is this… Is this a typical response?  And is this the desired result?  Cause I am just not seeing the benefit.

Confused on technique,



Dear Crazy person that searched for “my brain damaged husband in diapers” yesterday to get to my blog,

Doooo whaaaaaaat????

Feeling a little less crazy about myself now thanks to you,



Dear WordPress,

I am strongly considering leaving you because you are just not Cassi user friendly.  Why must you make it so hard for me to make any simple changes???  Maybe someone *ahem* (yeah, I’m talkin to you!) could give me some input as to why they prefer Blogger over you.  Or why they prefer you over Blogger.

In mental tug of war,



Dear Drop Dead Diva,

I am so glad that Lifetime has shown you to me!  You are my new favorite show.  Brooke Elliott portrays the Deb/Jane character SOOOO good!  Not to mention she is completely gorgeous!  I am completely in love with your show!  It is quirky, it is funny and it has serious issues too.  All around a great package.

Viewer for life,



Dear Readers,

Thank you for putting up with me for another week. I do hope that you chose to participate in Dear So and So. Just click here to go to Kat’s Blog and get the button for your page.

Have a fantastic weekend!!!

Thanks for reading!!



42 Responses to “Friday’s “Doooo whaaat?” Dear So and So…”

  1. August 14, 2009 at 10:02 am

    dear so and so . . .
    thanks for bring me over to mama cass so i could laugh my patooohhtiee off instead of exercising.

  2. August 14, 2009 at 11:57 am

    Blogger looks… not as professional. There are just not as many themes and it’s not as easy to incorporate them. Word Press gives you a lot more control and just looks and designs over all a lot easier, honestly, than Blogger.

    Just MO.

  3. 5 Kat
    August 14, 2009 at 12:15 pm

    I think it depends on who you get to design your blog on Blogger. My blog is blogger because frankly, well when I started I didn’t even really “get” blogging. Anyhoo, my friend BadassGeek does some great work designing blogger sites (he did mine). Of course a lot of it has to do with personal choice.

    Here is a link to his design site if you would like to take a look.


  4. August 14, 2009 at 12:43 pm

    What a kick ass key word search. LMFAO

  5. 9 Rebekah
    August 14, 2009 at 12:59 pm

    Tell your pediatrician that you are supposed to *ignore* temper tantrums. He can ask anybody. By giving him attention by swatting his butt for throwing a temper tantrum, you are reinforcing negative behavior. He is WRONG!

  6. August 14, 2009 at 1:09 pm

    Very interesting advice from the pediatrician. Just curious his age as that sounds like a pretty old skool suggestion with the hand swatting!!

    I am one of those rare people who went from Blogger to WordPress to self-hosted wordpress and then back to Blogger since I wasn’t into working with css and I downloaded a plugin – not sure which one – that totally hosed my site!!

    I am happily back with the ease of Blogger 😀

    Sorry to hear that your friend’s health is declining 😦

    • 14 Cass
      August 14, 2009 at 3:40 pm

      Interesting. I am just wondering what to do. People are so set on one or the other. April said yesterday that it’s like Mac or PC. And it really is!

      Thank you for the comment. And I am sorry his health is declining too. *sigh*

  7. August 14, 2009 at 1:53 pm

    If I get out the wrong side of the bed I hit a wall so I’m practically predisposed to having a good day!

    I have used both WordPress and Blogger and I have to say Blogger is more user friendly.

    WordPress is more customizable and gives you more control if you have a paid account but if you’re working on the bogstandard free account it’s sort of frustrating in that respect with very few templates to choose from and you can’t edit the CSS unless you pay to upgrade, whereas Blogger you can go online and find a trillion templates to upload to your free account and providing you know how to edit code a little bit or are happy with the template as is, you can customize to your heart’s content. WordPress is the better program overall in terms of being powerful, but Blogger’s easier and more customizable without having to pay! 🙂

    • 16 Cass
      August 14, 2009 at 3:41 pm

      the not having to pay part is a huge selling point for me 😀

      and you seem to have nailed all of the reasons that I am thinking of switching 🙂

  8. August 14, 2009 at 2:22 pm

    Good letters. As far as “my brain damaged husband in diapers” that was me. My ex is a dumb shit and I am seriously surprised he is able to toilet himself. I thought the diapers might be needed soon. Sorry…

    And I am so with you on wtf would I hit my daughter for hitting. Timeout works well for her. Though at times it can be a PITA.

    • 18 Cass
      August 14, 2009 at 3:44 pm

      LMAO!! Ok good to know 😉

      How do you do timeout? Cause he usually just laughs at me and runs off and then I spend 10 minutes chasing him thru the house. *sigh*

      • August 14, 2009 at 7:24 pm

        I keep setting her down on a cushion in the corner. She used to get up and run away. I would put her back and reset the timer. One time it took over 45 minutes to complete the timeout. But I kept too it. Now, I just tell her timeout and she goes all by herself {we have the occasional tantrums though}. And the threat of timeout usually stops her in her tracks. Good luck… you will need it.

  9. August 14, 2009 at 4:45 pm

    I’ve never heard of “Wrong Side of the Bed” being addressed. Good to know. Now I will tell it to leave me alone whenever it comes around!

    Your pediatrician sounds like a nutcase! Lol

  10. August 14, 2009 at 5:19 pm

    Hi, Cass —

    I am amazed that you can write such a wonderful blog when you’re not feeling well. Is the sinus infection getting better, I hope?

    I will check out Drop Dead Diva. BTW about Twilight, do you recommend I just go on to the second book, or is there another one you recommend? Thanks!

    • 24 Cass
      August 14, 2009 at 10:22 pm

      Yes we are getting to feeling better. Thank goodness.

      I recommend you read book two and then book three and then book four. haha 🙂 I thought they were all good.

  11. August 14, 2009 at 8:29 pm

    To the doc, well I am not a mom and not as old as he, but well Personally I think Spanking is a LAST resort kind of thing, I think that temper tantrums should just be ignored unless the tempering could hurt themselves then they should be moved to where they can throw the tantrum, at least thats what my folks did with me and it worked, I only got hit a few times and those stand out so I will always remember them and not to do it again.

    As for the choice, I am a blogger girl, but I have honestly never been to wordpress. I like the ease of blogger I am kinda web dumb so blogger is like K.I.S.S. books for me!

    • 26 Cass
      August 14, 2009 at 10:24 pm

      Thanks, I think that is going to be the direction in which we go. 🙂

      I am still debating but think that I am pretty sure I will switch to Blogger.

  12. August 14, 2009 at 9:42 pm

    Dear Cassi-
    I am not a dentist, but play one on tv…and regardless of what that doc says – don’t slap your child’s hand. It does send a mixed message. Instead of taking the paci away altogether…cut the tip off a teensy bit at a time. He will eventually not find it much fun anymore and you’ll find him using it less and less.

    signed, not lookig forward to paying for braces

  13. August 14, 2009 at 11:33 pm

    I’m with you on “Drop Dead Diva”. Love it!

    I have both Blogger and WordPress blogs. I design for both. The WordPress blog is for my business and therefore self hosted. It’s got tons of stuff to play with, but takes a lot of time to get it set the way you want it.

    Blogger is much more user friendly and there are, as stated up there somewhere before, a ca-zillion backgrounds and add-ons and people to help you do crazy cool stuff.

  14. August 15, 2009 at 7:38 pm

    Hi! Thanks for coming over to my blog and cheering me and the triplets on. 🙂

    I love your Dear So and So! I might have to start that ASAP, with my cervix. I loved your note to your Monkey! I have thought that many a time with my daughter when she is sick or in transition- I always go right to her, but sometimes wonder, is 4 hours sleep straight too much? 🙂

  15. August 16, 2009 at 6:41 am

    Love the wrong side of the bed and pediatrician observations. Some days any side of the bed is the wrong side of the bed!

    And I’m never understood the whole hit your kid to make them stop hitting thing. If you didn’t want Monkey to say a certain word, you wouldn’t say it where Monkey could hear it. Same general rule applies with hitting. Although I’ll admit that 25 years of running a daycare may have colored my thoughts on this one.

  16. August 16, 2009 at 3:34 pm

    Hi Cass!

    I saw your note that you don’t like WordPress. If you move your blog, could you please give us lots of advance notice so we can find your new location? I don’t want to miss what you write!

    Btw, wasn’t there a singer named Mama Cass a long time ago, back in the 1970s? Did your parents like her and is that where you got the idea for your blog name?


    • 36 Cass
      August 16, 2009 at 8:39 pm

      haha don’t worry I will 🙂

      Yes there was a Mama Cass with the Mama’s and the Papa’s. Lol And no my parents didn’t like her. My name is Cassandra and people call me Cass or Cassi. And I am a big girl and a Mama now so I came up with Big Mama Cass. Creative, eh? haha

  17. August 16, 2009 at 7:41 pm

    Oh.My.God. I LOVE Drop Dead Diva. I thought I was going to hate it, but I am in freaking love.

    • 38 Cass
      August 16, 2009 at 8:39 pm

      I know!! I was iffy too but thought the idea was good so I checked out the premiere and I am so glad I did! It’s AWESOME!!! 🙂

  18. August 20, 2009 at 5:41 pm

    OH.MY.GOSH. I can TOTALLY relate! Hysterical! Love the bra comment. I love it when my kids find tampons (new) between couch cushions and get them out to pretend they are mice when visitors are here…

  19. August 20, 2009 at 5:44 pm

    Okay, the brain damaged husband in diapers is very random! Wow! Never got that on my site meter before! Someone did type in hot 12-year-old boys and up came a picture of my son on google images! I can only hope that it was a sweet 12-year-old girl who typed that in!

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about moi…

Hi, my name is Cass. I am married to an amazing man who loves me unconditionally. I’m a stay at home mom to a rockin’ 2 year old boy who I call Monkey. I have an 12 year old step-daughter who lives in another state. We miss her daily. We also have two fur babies, Daisy and Jazz, who keep us on our toes. They are awesome!

I am a complete goofball, a photographer and a constant out loud thinker. I am a grammar challenged, vulgar, cursing, sex obsessed Big Mama fumbling through life. Among other things, I battle PCOS causing infertility, Bi Polar, Anxiety and OCD.

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