My son refuses to sleep. He is officially trying to push me over the edge. This is my assessment.
This happens every time we go out of town to visit family. He gets his schedule all off and thus completely ruins any hope I have of sleep for months. The problem begins with just the onset of travel. But it gets even more fun when he wakes up in the middle of our fist night away in a strange place wanting his Mama that I gladly give in to ease his discomfort and try desperately not to let him wake up everyone else in the sleeping house. Then the cycle begins. He wakes, I pick him up and hold him close. Then when my body is screaming at me begging me to sleep, I even start to just allow him to lay in bed with me and sleep. While I know full well this is going to be a path I SHOULD NOT go down, I go… full steam ahead… to ease my need for sleep. Then the proverbial “snowball effect”. He wakes, I get him, into bed with me he goes, I try to put him back into his pack and play because I can’t sleep a wink when he is in bed with me, he screams, I give in and put him back into bed with me and so on and so on.
Fast forward to now. Night number two at home in our own beds fresh from Pittsburgh. Night number two of fits of screaming and shaking at Mommy’s insistance to stay in his own bed. OhMaGodOhMaGodOhMaGoddddddddd!!! Will this child EVER go to sleep??
Yes, he is asleep now, after just 2 hours of screaming and my ears will NEVER be the same. Although I seriously didn’t think we would get there. And now I am WIDE AWAKE. ugh.
I don’t do the “cry it out” method either. We have been doing the Baby Whisperer techniques. He screams, I hold him, place him in bed, as soon as he cries, pick him up sooth him, put him back, he screams, i pick him up, sooth him, back to bed, yada yada yada… you get the idea. This goes on like this FOREVVVVVER!! And after 2 hours and he is finally worn out, not to mention ME completely toast, he goes to sleep.
This is the method we use every time we return from a trip. By the end of it all I have aged years, and the have the grays to prove it. It takes a few days but we get back on track and then he sleeps like a champ. (well most of the time.)
Cue the monkey wrench!!
We have friends coming to visit tomorrow. They will be staying through the weekend. While I love their visits, (fully admitting that their children make corporal punishment forefront and very enticing in my mind), I am stressed about their arrival. The way my house is structured, the bedroom they will be staying in with their two boys is next door to Jimmy’s room. With his nightly wakings, I am afraid I will fall back into “traveling habits” and thus extending the time it takes me to get him back on track. I know this will happen because I won’t want to wake them up while I deal with the two hour fiasco of screaming. Then I will remain exhausted their entire trip, including New Years Eve (yay!) and be thinking of nothing more than please god make them go so I can get this kid to sleep normal!! and that just isn’t fair to any of us.
I seriously have no idea what to do. If I put him into my room with me in a pack and play, he will do the same thing. Plus then I have to keep him from waking his Dad because he has to work in the morning. Don’t even get me started on that drama right now.
When is it that I get to just have one night to sleep and actually ENJOY that sleep?!?!